During my college days studying sociology, we had this very controversial debate about TSISMIS.

Let me first define gossip in the most simple way: If you are joining into a conversation where you are not part of the problem nor part of the solution that is gossip.


Gossip comes in many forms: It could be in the form of a “concern”, prayer requests, idle talk, parlor stories or opinions.” I remember a time when somebody told me that they were discussing yours truly in their group. So I ask what did you guys talk about. He said, nothing really, just our perceptions about you. So I ask why in the world would you guys talk about someone in his back.

Now it is great to honor or say something good to someone but to start making conclusions about someone without any facts is dead wrong and to talk without him there to defend it is cowardness and sin.(Pls note, I am not mad – i’m just explaining) I have since forgiven the people who had nothing better to do than to talk about somebody else in a demeaning way.

Anyway, back to the blog. Every time somebody talks about somebody behind their back there should only be one response you need to make. Tell that person to stop. It is not worth your time. Trust me!

A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends.  Proverbs 16:28
The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts.  Proverbs 18:8
A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much.  Proverbs 20:19