Plates flying, voices screaming, one sleeps in the sofa the other on the king size bed, communication is as bad as the signal of the telecom companies – you are on the verge of seperation, you are about to quit on this marriage that years ago you vowed to fight for. You wonder – who is this monster that I married?

You might be overwhelmed at the moment. You cannot continue living this way. Every conversation that you initiate ends up in a fight – a fight on who is right or wrong but you end up settling nothing except that you hate each other more.

YOU NEED A MARRIAGE MAKEOVER!

I will be outlining baby steps to help you in your marriage and I hope this helps. I won’t say this is a proven, based on research application but it won’t hurt for you to try the steps I’ll be suggesting.

Baby Step 1: HAVE SEX IN THE NEXT 24 HOURS.

Baby Step 2: RENEW YOUR COMMITMENT TO FOLLOW GOD AND HIS WAYS AFTER BABY STEP 1.

Baby Step 3: DATE YOUR SPOUSE AND TALK ABOUT THE POSITIVE THINGS, MEMORIES AND ATTRIBUTES THAT YOU BOTH HAVE AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK.

Baby Step 4: DATE YOUR SPOUSE AND TALK ABOUT THE PROBLEMS YOU ARE CURRENTLY FACING. IT WOULD BE ADVISABLE TO HAVE AN OBJECTIVE PERSON PRESENT IN THIS TALK.

Baby Step 5: KNOW YOUR ROLES AS HUSBAND AND WIFE AND STICK TO IT.

Baby Step 6: FIND A MENTOR WHO COULD HELP YOU THROUGH YOUR REBUILDING PROCESS

Baby Step 7: CREATE A QUARTERLY RALLY CRY IN YOUR MARRIAGE