Ask Me Anything: My Parents are having an Affair


I found out my mom had an affair 4 years ago.Last Sunday, I found out my dad has one too.We are a Chrisitan family for 11 years now. What can I do to stop this curse and how can I forgive my parents? I find it really hard.

I got this question in my formspring this week and was taken aback and felt really bad for the girl who wrote this question. I’ll try as much as possible to answer her question and concern:

Sister, first of all I am sadden with your news and I stand with you in prayer that God would do His work in your family. Knowing things like these could surely shake our faith but my prayer is that through this seasons you would all the more strengthen your faith in Christ.

With regards to your parent’s adulterous affairs, God is holy and just and he is angry about sin and deals with it in ways that are holy, good and just. I admire you wanting to forgive your parents and I hope you do for it is the biblical way but at the same time I sense a feeling of hurt and betrayal.

Your question regarding stopping the curse and how to forgive your parents for such betrayal requires me to talk about a gooey subject in the Bible called the BLOOD of JESUS. Interestingly, the Blood of Jesus is mentioned 3x more in the New Testament thatn the cross of Jesus Christ. When you talk about the cross and the death of Christ you can’t help mention the blood of Jesus.

Blood in the Scripture is almost always connected to sin. Every time the people in the Old Testament sin – it requires an animal sacrifice. Somebody has to pay for the penalty of their sin.

Lev. 17:11 For the life of the flesh is in the blood, and I have given it to you upon the altar to make atonement for your souls; for it is the blood that makes atonement for the soul.’

But the Old Testament sacrificial system was a foreshadow of the ultimate sacrifice that Jesus made at the cross for the forgiveness of our sin and for the curse of sin to be broken. Jesus in the last supper mentioned about his death and its connection with the forgiveness of sins:

Matt. 26:26-28 And as they were eating, Jesus took bread, blessed and broke it, and gave it to the disciples and said, “Take, eat; this is My body.” Then He took the cup, and gave thanks, and gave it to them, saying, “Drink from it, all of you. For this is My blood of the new covenant, which is shed for many for the remission of sins.

The sin of your parents, your sin, my sin can only be cleansed and forgiven by the blood of Jesus which he shed at the cross. No matter how grave the sin is – Christ forgives.

Heb. 9:22 In fact, the law requires that nearly everything be cleansed with blood, and without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.

And Jesus did not just stop by forgiving us and cleansing us but He empowers us to live a life that is Christlike – and that includes learning how to forgive even the sins that hurts us the most;

Heb. 9:26 Otherwise Christ would have had to suffer many times since the creation of the world. But he has appeared once for all at the culmination of the ages to do away with sin by the sacrifice of himself.

Heb. 10:10 And by that will, we have been made holy through the sacrifice of the body of Jesus Christ once for all.

Thus the forgiveness that is required of us becomes easy when we have a proper understanding of what Christ did at the cross for the forgiveness of our sins. The Bible commands us to forgive unconditionally

Matt. 18:21-22 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive someone who sins against me? Up to seven times?”  Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy–seven times.

With regards to the curse that you fear that might be passed on because of the sin of your parents – I have great news. As you enter into a relationship with Jesus, as you receive what He has done at the cross then as your pastor I reassure you that the curse has been broken. It doesn’t have to be passed on to you. The Bible clearly says:

Gal. 3:13 Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: “Cursed is everyone who is hung on a pole.”

You have been redeemed by the curse because Jesus became the curse. That is how powerful the death and resurrection of Christ is. I hope I was able to answer your question

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